Newer to the scene, I of course was introduced to this world by a guy. I've had a few comments and such in public though. I was a ballerina for many years, and of course en pointe and arches are a significant part of the form.
In general, I do not prefer flats as it is painful to walk. I do use inserts for arch support when running or similar. However my preferred footwear is one that accentuates the arch. I have one unique pair that is shankless and lets the arch go off on its own!
Of course bare and lounging, they tend to arch just as well.
Anyways, I hope you all enjoy!